QueerBooks is your go-to bookstore in Bern for books, films, magazines, and other great items centered around lesbian, gay, bisexual, pansexual, or asexual, trans, intersex, gender-related, and feminist topics.
Beata's Book >> NOT GIVING A FUCK was already presented at her book table at Pride Bern alongside other great books, and we’re thrilled that Beata will now be reading live at her bookstore on September 6 🎉
But above all, we want to chat with you—after all, the topic thrives on our many personal experiences surrounding sexual performance pressure and erotic attempts at pleasurable refusal to comply. Refreshments will be provided!
Admission: Suggested price CHF 12
Wheelchair accessible (restrooms are not accessible, unfortunately)
Reservations recommended due to limited seating
AboutNOT GIVING A FUCK:
Finally, no more sex!
The pressure to have amazing sex is everywhere these days. Beate Absalon invites us to shake it off and explore the possibilities of uninhibited and inventive pleasure.
Sex can be a source of regret. It could be a refuge for mutual pleasure and carefree whims—but it has become a high-stakes endeavor that must succeed at all costs so that we, too, can be considered successful, even in areas where we’re already doing better from a queer-feminist perspective.
In her quest to de-stress, Beate Absalon takes a culturally and historically grounded look at the secluded—yet only seemingly opposed—side of sexuality: sexual aversion, asexuality, celibacy, and dysfunction, which delightfully refuse to submit to the duty of sexual service and open up unprecedented scope for exploration.
Press reviews:
"The book is inspiring because readers can't help but reflect on their own patterns and beliefs, both in and out of bed."
– L-Mag - The Magazine for Lesbians
"'Not giving a fuck' can be a revelation, a catalyst for recognizing our compulsively sexual society and questioning it for ourselves. It’s a relief to read because the book isn’t just understanding and free of prejudice, but also connects individual questions to the bigger picture.”
– queer.de
“The author invites us to let go of the idea that we have to experience mind-blowing sex. Instead, to find our own individual, independent, and inventive pleasure.”
– (Freizeit) Kurier
"We take the topic of sex too seriously. True intimacy only arises when a lack of desire and non-performance are accepted as completely normal, says cultural studies scholar Beate Absalon."
– Stern online
About the author:
As a cultural studies scholar, Beate Absalon focuses on contemporary sexual culture. Combining theory with practice, she offers workshops on forms of sexual play under the labelluhmen d’arc, in which she explores ambiguities, sociopolitical contexts, and non-cathartic emotions (such as awkwardness, shyness, and laziness). >> More about Beata
For those who want to be prepared: order the book from your favorite bookstore
or>> directly from the publisher in Austriaor >> from Orell Füssli