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From December 29 to January 1, Beata is organizing a special Touch&Play event at the beautiful, nature-surrounded retreat in Drawehn—located between Berlin and Hamburg. We’d like to focus on a special theme: romance! Because it currently has a bad reputation. And rightly so! All too often, rose-colored glasses lead to drama, suffering, jealousy, possessiveness, dependency, and…
We urgently need support and are currently seeking a part-time (20–30%) assistant for production and event administration. Application deadline: December 4, 2024. LUHMEN D’ARC is a…
After the FLINTA* orgy at Ewaldshof, someone wrote a first-hand account! “I was immediately curious when I heard about it. And of course, I felt a certain hesitation: What will I encounter? What will be expected of me? How open am I really? How much physical intimacy can I even allow with people I don’t know? How much nudity, for that matter? Am I totally uptight after all? Am I slowly getting too old for this kind of thing?”
Beata is co-organizing the Touch&Play gathering in Bavaria at the end of August—and this year’s theme is absolutely charming! If you’ve ever wondered why some people who call themselves “authentic” come across as so fake, why superficial conversations can sometimes be far more profound than so-called “deep talk,” and how much honesty can be revealed through lies—then come and explore these questions with us…
We wanted to know what people thought of our workshop (AN)THER ORGY. Here are a few short interviews recorded after the last event in April in Berlin.
Enjoy listening!
For a new sexual revolution that advocates not only for the free expression of desire, but also for the free expression of a lack of desire. Because despite all the wonderful and important feminist and sex-positive efforts to break down taboos and overcome shame, one thing remains a shameful taboo: not having sex, not wanting it, or wanting it but struggling with it…
Why do people come for a session with Rebecca? What about workshops and retreats on sexuality? Do they really work, and where does this trend come from? Can someone really train to become a better lover? Rebecca joins the Crude podcast team to take a critical look at the issue and discuss whether sex can be coached at all and…
"Forget the images of oiled-up, raunchy orgies—here we’ll wallow in idleness and indulge in rotten f****. Getting involved with people we don’t click with, and consciously embracing the thrill of the bore-gasm …
How is sexuality portrayed and represented? Through nudity? The rubbing of certain body parts? Through censorship? By provoking aroused feelings? Beata is organizing a series of discussions at the Graduate Center for the Study of Culture in Giessen on the…
Did you happen to see that there was an interview with Beata in FAZ Quarterly? "The way society views sexuality has changed radically. We introduce five women who have turned this into a career." Among them…
The volume *Empfangen*, published by DeGruyter, has just been released as a commemorative publication honoring cultural studies scholar Prof. Dr. Iris Därmann, whose work focuses on sadism, theories of gift-giving, aesthetics, and other fascinating fields of research that also hold great interest for us; Beata contributed to this volume alongside other editors.
We urgently need support and are currently seeking a part-time (20–40%) assistant for production and event administration. Application deadline: May 7, 2023. LUHMEN D’ARC is a…
… an exciting and lively post about your visit to our workshop (AN)OTHER ORGY. We two cuties, Beata & Matís, took the liberty of editing together the absolute highlights of it, exclusively for you 😁
Dive into the world of sex counseling and hear from people exploring their sexuality in Berlin. In the first season, “Sexual Anarchy,” we’re interviewing rebels and misfits, asking how we can channel our sexual…
More specifically, in the conference proceedings *Anthropology of Sex, Gender, and Bodies: Cultural Studies Perspectives on Everyday Life* published by the *Hamburg Journal of Cultural Anthropology*. Beata’s article is available >>here.
The theater project *Sex Education II* is a series of lecture-performances exploring sexual pleasure as a fundamental sexual right within the framework of human rights. The project is a co-production…
Just in case you haven't noticed yet: NEW NEWSLETTER! – Exciting things are happening in Zurich, Berlin, Karlsruhe, and Andalusia—people are already starting to book. Don't miss your chance! ;) Read the newsletter >> here
…Thanks to the other participants, the lively exchanges, and the joy of engaging in a playful, collaborative exploration of ideas, the interview was truly a pleasure.
Thank you!
"Even with the utmost care and the best of intentions, things can go wrong during sexual encounters. [...] This necessarily complicates theories of consent that assume autonomous subjects with a transparent core self and view sex as…"
What a spot-on description of what it’s like to attend a sex-positive event. 😅 But I also want to give a big shout-out to the wonderful and smart people Clara and Alina, who actually…
“I stumble; perhaps by stumbling I found you, perhaps by stumbling I stumbled upon happiness—a happiness brimming with joy; a happiness as fragile as the bodies we love and cherish.” (S. Ahmed) – Get more info & your ticket for the next Touch&Play Germany – from August 28, 2022, to September 2, 2022, at Nature Community in Bavaria. >> Here!
… several years ago – this happened at the Touch & Play Festival in Germany in 2021, when David led a fantastic workshop on THE SPACE BETWEEN. Embodied mysticism? In any case, it was deeply moving and eye-opening, if not mind-blowing! How wonderful that…
For the past 20 years, Felix has undoubtedly been one of the most inspiring and inventive—yet occasionally quite controversial—artists and curators when it comes to blending choreography, dance, and performance with bodywork, kink, and experiential and immersive workshop formats. Within his…
Join luhmen d'arc in the Andalusian mountains for our "with a pinch of salt" retreat at the beautiful Cortijo La Casería del Mercado. Because we want those luxuriously long, deep, sensually oily, warm caresses and those orgasmic full-body sensations…
…what we aim to achieve with our work. Check it out: "[...] people project onto sex the things that make them uncomfortable: its strangeness (I was just standing there talking, and now I’m doing this?), its messiness, its awkwardness, its apparent disconnect from so many other 'appropriate' urges…"
“I stumble; maybe by stumbling I found you, maybe by stumbling I stumbled upon happiness, a happiness brimming with joy; a happiness as fragile as the bodies we love and cherish.” (S. Ahmed) – Beata is co-organizing the next Touch&Play Germany and is looking for facilitators who would like to share their magic…
… about her new project—a podcast with Mo! And what’s this project about? Mo and abcde Flash met on Feeld on December 26, 2021. On January 1, they met in person. On February 13, Mo had a brainwave: to do a podcast together called “The Virgin and…”
… featuring the #makeprofessionalnudeprofilepicsathing photo from the shoot with Anaïs Steiner – Aaaaaaaand just in case you’ve never had the chance to see @abcde_flash’s film WALKING A FINE LINE – starring Matís d‘Arc – you can now…
… how to be close to one another. Join us on our journey—a noble quest to demystify so-called tantric massages: TANTRA – WITH A PINCH OF SALT – RETREAT FROM JULY 9–17, 2022, at the beautiful Cortijo Caseria del Mercado in Andalusia, Spain.
A friend asked me about our new workshop, "HOW TO BECOME A BETTER LOVER," which will take place on February 5–6 at the IKSK in Berlin. We recorded the answer for anyone who’s curious to get a glimpse of our workshop format. The best and most engaging way to find out, though, is to join us 🤝
“We’ll begin with a brief meditation in which we reflect on states of mind that are not focused on pleasure and satisfaction. Our aim is to reflect on the nature of desire and ask whether our desire has far more to do with self-denial than with self-fulfillment.”
There it is! The note I was looking for…
When we first launched our retreat “Tantra with a pinch of salt” and posted it on Facebook (because back then, the way to announce you’d started something was to create a Facebook event), a neighbor messaged me saying:
“You know this isn’t real tantra, don’t you?”…
This account was written by a participant following the FLINTA* orgy at Ewaldshof. “I was immediately curious when I heard about it. And of course, I felt a certain amount of hesitation: What will I encounter? What will be expected of me? How open am I really? How much physical intimacy can I even allow with people I don’t know? How much nudity, for that matter? Am I actually totally uptight? Am I slowly getting too old for this kind of thing?”
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