We have a right to our kinks and to our fatigue—both
— Maggy Nelson
Do you need a break from sex? Do you feel uninterested, bored, or frustrated? Are you (or do you wonder if you are) asexual? Or is it just not worth the trouble?
Abstinence could be like fasting, detoxing, or going on strike. It could feel like coming home. Or it could be incredibly difficult to resist temptation.
No matter how you look at it—could there be fulfillment in abstinence?
From nonsexual eroticism to spinster sensuality and non-pleasure activism: we’ll explore our relationship to sex and its “dry seasons” by:
reflecting verbally and physically on the meaning of sex and sharing experiences and questions with one another
offering insights into the cultural history of voluntary celibacy and its empowering potential (and how to distinguish it from moralistic "purity culture")—inspired by badass figures ranging from Hildegard von Bingen to Julia Fox
doing breathwork that focuses on the pleasures of rest rather than climax
offering playful interactions that explore the intimacy of “no,” of feelings beyond arousal, of restraint, of resistance, as well as of vows and solitude
Reading forbidden erotic literature by fiery female mystics tormented by holy ecstasy
creative exercises based on scores, such as writing one’s “prude manifesto” or wondering how one would have sex with a spirit / god / goddess / goddex?
All of this takes place in a curious, honest, and light-hearted atmosphere where consent is key.
This workshop addresses a turning (or rather, a breaking) point where sex positivity is met with disillusionment and skepticism. Come connect and rebuild new forms of intimacy from the ruins of a sexual culture that, fortunately, is falling apart.
THE FACILITATORS
BEATA
Beata is the author of *Not Giving a Fuck: On Listless Sex and Sexless Desire*, a psychosocial counselor interested in the fact that people are inconvenient, and a cultural theorist focused on the nuances of consent.
Instagram: @beateabsalon
Photo: Pauline Massimo
REBECCA
She studied languages at Cambridge and now researches how bodies communicate. Interested in the parts of ourselves we don’t fully control, she trained in massage, yoga, qigong, and sexological bodywork. She explores tantra, pranayama, and butoh to delve deeper into the depths of existence and what happens when we die.
Instagram: @feel_more_bln
TIMES
, Sat, Nov. 15, 2025 – 6:00–10:00 p.m.
Doors open at 5:45 p.m.
LANGUAGES
, English
HOSTED BY
, Beate Absalon, and Rebecca Frances
(English via the language switcher in the website menu.)
Choose your ticket price based on your own assessment.
With our Low(er) Income Tickets, we want to give low-income individuals the opportunity to attend our events.
We cordially invite high earners to make it with a higher contribution possible for us to make this offer.
With that in mind, we thank you in advance for your solidarity.
For people with particularly low incomes, there are usually additional options available for even lower prices.
Please don't hesitate to write to us and ask any questions. We'd love to have you join us!
PRICE PER PERSON
50.00 EUR
Low(er) Income Tickets
I – EUR 40.00
II – EUR 30.00
III – EUR 20.00
High(er) Income Tickets
I – EUR 60.00
II – EUR 70.00
III – EUR 80.00
Please also read all further info below, too.
Further informations
NOTES ON THE EVENT
The goals of our events are collaborative learning within the group, supporting shared processes, and personal development. Couples and all other types of partnerships or relationships are welcome, but you should be aware and open to the fact that the courses are not designed as partnership experiences and that we address each person as an individual. For example: To ensure that all participants are equally involved, we usually work with randomly assigned partner combinations during the exercises. This means there will be both same-gender and mixed-gender pairings. Participants should generally be open to working with any person and any body. Exceptions can be discussed on a case-by-case basis.
Gender identity, sexual orientation, age, or membership in marginalized groups such as BBIPoC, migrants, refugees, LGBTQIA*, people with disabilities, etc., are not criteria for registration or participant selection.
We expect you to act with care, be communicative, prioritize consent, and be mindful, and we encourage you to respect your own boundaries and take personal responsibility.
Hate speech will not be tolerated. Please bring “Candy Speech” with you.
We reserve the right to ask participants to leave the workshop if their behavior is harmful or problematic, and we reserve the right to do so without explanation—although we will likely try to explain our decision. Workshop fees would then be refunded in full. Any further claims are excluded.
We do our best to accommodate different needs, but our resources are limited. Please contact us if you have any questions.
You can read more about this topic here.
CANCELLATION POLICY
Cancellations are free of charge up to eight weeks before the start of the course, up to four weeks before the start of the course a cancellation fee of 20% of the course fee is due, up to two weeks before the start of the course a cancellation fee of 50% is due. Later cancellations and refunds of participant fees are not possible. However, participants can find substitute participants who will take the booked places. In case of cancellation by the organizer, the course fee will be refunded in full. Further claims are excluded.