We have a right to our kinks and to our fatigue, both
- Maggy Nelson
Do you need a break from sex? Do you feel lustless, bored, frustrated? Are you (wondering if you are) asexual? Or is it just not worth the bother?
Abstinence could be like fasting or detoxing or like going on strike. It could feel like coming home. Or it could be incredibly hot to resist temptation.
Whatever the angle - could there be abundance in abstinence?
From nonsexual erotics to spinster sensualities and non-pleasure activism: we'll explore our relationship to sex and its dry seasons by:
verbally and somatically reflecting on the meaning of sex and sharing experiences and questions with each other
offering input on the cultural history of voluntary celibacy and its empowering potential (and how to distinguish it from moralistic purity culture) - inspired by badass sources from Hildegard von Bingen to Julia Fox
doing breathwork that focuses on the pleasures of rest rather than climax
offering playful interactions exploring the intimacy of "no", of feelings beyond arousal, of refraining, of resisting as well as of vows and of solitude
reading forbidden smut by spicy female mystics tormented by holy ecstasy
creative exercises on scores such as writing one's prude manifesto or wondering how would one fuck spirit / god / goddess / goddex?
All of this in a curious, honest and light-hearted atmosphere where consent is key.
This workshop responds to a turning (off) point where sex positivity is met with disillusionment and scepticism. Come to connect and reconstruct new ways of intimacy from the rubble of a sexual culture which is luckily falling apart.
THE FACILITATORS
BEATA
Beata is the author of "Not giving a fuck. Von lustlosem Sex und sexloser Lust", a psychosocial counselor interested in the fact that people are inconvenient and a cultural theorist invested in the nuances of consent.
Instagram: @beateabsalon
Photo: Pauline Massimo
REBECCA
read languages at Cambridge and now studies how bodies speak. Interested in the parts of us we don't fully control, she trained in massage, yoga, chi gong and sexological bodywork. She explores tantra, pranayama and butoh to dig deeper into swamps of being and what happens when we die.
Instagram: @feel_more_bln
TIMES
Sat, 15.11.2025 - 18-22 h
Door opens at 17:45 h
LANGUAGES
English
HOSTED BY
Beate Absalon & Rebecca Frances
(English via language switcher in the website menu.)
Choose your ticket price according to your self-assessment.
With the low(er) income tickets, we also want to give low-income earners the opportunity to attend our events.
We cordially invite high earners to make it with a higher contribution possible for us to make this offer.
We would like to thank you in advance for your solidarity.
For people with particularly low incomes, there are usually additional options for even lower prices.
Please do not hesitate to write to us and ask. We would be delighted if you could join us!
PRICE PER PERSON
EUR 50,00
Low(er) Income Tickets
I - EUR 40.00
II - EUR 30.00
III - EUR 20.00
High(er) Income Tickets
I - EUR 60.00
II - EUR 70.00
III - EUR 80.00
Please also read all further info below, too.
Further informations
NOTES ON THE EVENT
The aims of our events are to learn together as a group and support shared processes as well as personal development. Couples and all other types of partnerships or constellations are welcome, but you should be aware and open to the fact that the courses are not designed as partnership experiences and that we address each person as an individual. For example, in order to include all participants equally, we usually work with random partner combinations in the exercises. This means that there will be both the same and different gender combinations. Participants should generally be open to working with any person and any body. Exceptions can be discussed on a case-by-case basis.
Gender identity, sexual orientation, age or membership of marginalized groups such as BBIPoC, migrants, refugees, LGBTQIA*, people with disabilities etc. are not criteria when registering and selecting participants.
We expect you to be careful, communicative, consent-oriented and mindful, and we encourage you to respect your own boundaries and self-responsibility.
Hate speech will not be tolerated. Please bring "candy speech".
We reserve the right to ask participants to leave the workshop should their behavior be hurtful or too problematic, and we reserve the right to do so without explanation - although we will likely try to explain. Workshop fees would then be refunded in full. Further claims are then excluded.
We do our best to accommodate different needs, but our resources are limited. If in doubt, please contact us.
You can read more about this topic here.
CANCELLATION POLICY
Cancellations are free of charge up to eight weeks before the start of the course, up to four weeks before the start of the course a cancellation fee of 20% of the course fee is due, up to two weeks before the start of the course a cancellation fee of 50% is due. Later cancellations and refunds of participant fees are not possible. However, participants can find substitute participants who will take the booked places. In case of cancellation by the organizer, the course fee will be refunded in full. Further claims are excluded.