HOW DO YOU MAKE LOVE IN A RELATIONSHIP?
Maybe sex in your relationship has quietened, gone stale or become predictable. Maybe your body has changed—due to aging, stress, or having children—and intimacy feels unfamiliar. Maybe you’re used to hook-up intensity, and making love feels like it’s missing something. Or maybe you’re just curious about what else there is to discover…
There are countless tips: positions to master, things to buy, roles to play. But if it were really that simple—wouldn’t we all be having fulfilling sex by now?
Intimacy cannot be reduced to mere tricks.
We need spaces where we can simply be together—not to do things “right,” but to cultivate curiosity. Where pleasure isn’t something to optimise, but something to listen for. And where relationships are valued for their own unique dynamics.
Bring your partner for some focused quality time, together.
Drawing on approaches from Authentic Relating, sexological bodywork, couples counseling, massage, relationship work, nervous system regulation, and more, we’ll help you get creative in exploring what your relationship needs.
WHAT WE WILL DO
🧲 SOMATIC EXERCISES
Tune into your body and notice what you crave now, beyond habit, expectation or performance.
💬 SAY THE THINGS YOU USUALLY DON'T SAY
Guided conversations help you clarify what intimacy means to you—and how you can put it into practice. Be specific about topics such as greetings, hugs, touching, massage, kissing, sex, appreciation, etc.
🌀 DITCH THE SCRIPT
Play with nonverbal ways of getting closer that shake up routine and invite the fresh, the surprising, the alive between you.
🫶 TOUCH, SLOWED WAY DOWN
Give and receive touch with curiosity rather than with a goal in mind. Explore massage and erogenous zones without a set plan. Just see what unfolds.
🌬️ HELP YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM CHILL OUT
Simple tools can help you feel more deeply, connect more intimately, and reduce stress – because intimacy rarely thrives in a body that’s bracing.
✍️ GET YOUR INNER WORLD OUT OF YOUR HEAD
Through writing, drawing, and reflection, you’ll untangle your desires, identify what’s important to you, and practice expressing it.
FAQs
CAN I COME ALONE?
The exercises are designed to help you go deeper with a specific person or several people. So bring them with you!
DO WE HAVE TO GET INTIMATE WITH OTHER COUPLES OR GROUPS DURING THE WORKSHOP?
There may be group exercises (e.g., movement practices such as Contact Improvisation or discussion rounds in smaller groups). This offers a special opportunity to work with others and listen to them. You can decide at any time to stay just the two of you or to skip an exercise. All intimate exercises, especially those involving touch, take place with your partner.
WHAT MAKES YOUR APPROACH UNIQUE
We strive to minimize authority and predetermined answers, and to do away with fixed rules, norms, and hierarchies. Instead, we encourage self-determination, individual creativity, communication, and mutual agreement—so that unique connections can emerge. We value stumbling together, imagining new ways of being together, and cultivating collective joy and care.
WHERE DO YOUR METHODS COME FROM
Our work is inspired by couples counseling, relationship work, somatics and body awareness, tantra, constellation work, and nervous system regulation. We see our work as a collection of insights and ideas that you can take with you and apply even outside the workshop.
FACILITATION
BEATA
is a cultural studies scholar and a couples counselor in training. She explores how societal expectations regarding sexuality and intimacy shape our relationships. In doing so, she combines theory with somatic practices to challenge norms and open up new possibilities for closeness, self-determination, and mutual consent. In 2024 , she published >> Not Giving a Fuck: From Lustless Sex & Sexless Lust to the Eroticism of Failure and Intimate Integrity.
Instagram: @beateabsalon
Photo: Pauline Massimo
REBECCA
studied languages at the University of Cambridge and now focuses on how bodies speak. She completed training in Sexological Bodywork at the ISB Berlin and works as a yoga teacher as well as a massage and breathwork practitioner. She is interested in philosophical and poetic approaches to the somatic. In her practical, creative, and experimental physical practices, she draws on her intellectual background and professional interests to further explore exactly what happens when bodies touch—and why we either want it or don't want it so much.
Instagram: @feel_more_bln
TIMES
Fri, May 22, 2026 - 6:20 PM–9:00 PM
Doors open at 6:00 PM
Sat, May 23, 2026 - 1:20 PM–10:00 PM
Doors open at 1:00 PM
Sun, May 24, 2026 - 1:20 PM–6:00 PM
Doors open at 1:00 PM
LANGUAGES
English, and German if necessary
HOSTED BY
Beate Absalon & Rebecca Frances
(English via the language switcher in the website menu.)
Choose your ticket price based on your own assessment.
With our Low(er) Income Tickets, we want to give low-income individuals the opportunity to attend our events.
We cordially invite high earners to make it with a higher contribution possible for us to make this offer.
With that in mind, we would like to thank you in advance for your support.
For people with very low incomes, there are usually additional options available for even lower prices.
Please don't hesitate to contact us with any questions. We'd love to have you join us!
PRICE PER PERSON:
EUR 250.00
Low(er) Income Tickets
I – EUR 200.00
II – EUR 150.00
III – EUR 100.00
High(er) Income Tickets
I – EUR 300.00
II – EUR 350.00
III – EUR 400.00
Please also read all further info below, too.
Further informations
NOTES ON THE EVENT
Gender identity, sexual orientation, age, or membership in marginalized groups such as BBIPoC, migrants, refugees, LGBTQIA*, people with disabilities, etc., are not criteria for registration or participant selection.
We expect you to act with care, be communicative, prioritize consent, and be mindful, and we encourage you to respect your own boundaries and take personal responsibility.
Hate speech will not be tolerated. Please bring "Candy Speech" with you.
We reserve the right to ask participants to leave the workshop if their behavior is hurtful or problematic, and we reserve the right to do so without explanation—though we will likely try to explain it. Workshop fees would then be refunded in full. Any further claims are excluded.
We do our best to accommodate different needs, but our resources are limited. Please contact us if you have any questions.
You can read more about this topic here.
CANCELLATION POLICY
Cancellations are free of charge up to eight weeks before the start of the course, up to four weeks before the start of the course a cancellation fee of 20% of the course fee is due, up to two weeks before the start of the course a cancellation fee of 50% is due. Later cancellations and refunds of participant fees are not possible. However, participants can find substitute participants who will take the booked places. In case of cancellation by the organizer, the course fee will be refunded in full. Further claims are excluded.