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"We need more hospitality in our interactions with each other—we need to give each other more space to develop. By paying attention to each other and noticing what the other person says and does. By joining in a game together, throwing the ball to each other and sticking with it. Instead of restricting each other, we offer the other person a stage on which they can shine."
— Luce De Lire – Lessons in Revolutionary Flirting
Would you like to do something together? Get closer to each other (again), nurture your bond, break out of entrenched routines, or have fun that can be meaningful?
In everyday life, we often lack the time and ideas to do so. Don't despair! We have put together two well-planned days in which you can explore what it means to be in a relationship in a playful and embodied way.
🖇️ Come with your partner or partners to engage in a distraction-free and inspiring space where you can consciously explore how you currently share intimacy, love, connection, and commitment with each other—and how you would like to share these things.
🖇️ Bring a friend or a group of friends to get closer (in a platonic way) and get to know each other better—beyond the usual life updates in a café. Or become friends with benefits—and decide for yourselves what the "benefits" actually mean.
🖇️ Bring your lover or playmate to explore the wide spectrum of how you can and want to make out, play, or fuck—without relying on sexual scripts that dictate what we are supposed to do and want.
🖇️ Come with your ex to experiment with how you want to be with each other today after your time together.
🖇️ Comes as a date to express interest out of curiosity and playfulness, without having a specific goal in mind.
All of the above considerations also apply to all other relationships and are not limited to a specific constellation. Because when we talk about "relationship," "intimacy," "closeness," or "love," we mean the entire spectrum of what this means to you. This may—but does not have to—include physical touch, sex, shared responsibility, romantic feelings, emotional support, etc.
Our approach seeks to avoid predetermined rules, norms, and hierarchies, and instead promotes self-determination, communication, and mutual agreement in order to do justice to the uniqueness of you and your relationship.
Can I come alone?
The exercises are tailored to people who want to deepen their relationship with a specific person. However, if you are open-minded and flexible enough to adapt the exercises, it would be possible to a) explore your relationship with yourself, b) gather inspiration for relationships outside the workshop, c) perhaps meet other people who are also coming solo and try out the exercises together—but we cannot guarantee this.
METHODS
We draw on a unique wealth of experience in various relational arts, improvisation, creative play, BDSM, bodywork, mindfulness training, couples counseling, and connection games. These methods enable playful experimentation, allow us to imagine new ways of being together, and promote collective joy and care.
What does that mean specifically? For example:
🌱 Conversation guides to stimulate interesting dialogues and the exchange of lively thoughts, feelings, sensations, and visions
🌱 Physical exercises to become aware of these thoughts, feelings, etc., to become receptive to others, to deepen intuition and listening skills
🌱 Playful interactions and constellations for nonverbal contact that allow you to see others in a new light and explore new and more harmonious ways of interacting, cooperating, and revealing yourself to one another.
🌱 Guided exercises for nourishing touch and, to be specific, so-called "love languages": how do you like to be greeted, hugged, comforted, massaged, kissed, appreciated, etc.?
🌱 Sensory experiences that focus on slowness and details to put you in a creative mindset that lets you see each other as so much more than just the people you think you know.
🌱 Relaxation and regulation techniques that facilitate honest contact and allow experiences to be processed and integrated
🌱Self-reflection, creative writing, and input on concepts such as relationship anarchy and attachment styles to explore and articulate the meanings and needs behind your connection more precisely, so that you become aware of your unique dynamics and patterns as well as your dormant potential.
🌱 Consensus and communication practices to communicate and negotiate needs or desires more clearly (e.g., for recognition, freedom, security, or something more specific), while also appreciating not knowing, spontaneity, and unpredictability.
🌱 Games that focus on fun and lightheartedness, which, alongside all the self-awareness and relationship work, also allow for exuberance, a little silliness, and "embracing the cringe," gently guiding you out of your comfort zone (if you're ready).
THE FACILITATORS
BEATA
Beate Absalon is a cultural scientist and couples counselor in training under supervision. She explores how societal expectations of sexuality and intimacy shape our relationships. In doing so, she combines theory with somatic practices to question norms and open up new possibilities for closeness, self-determination, and mutual consent. In 2024, she published >> Not Giving a Fuck. From listless sex & sexless lust to the eroticism of failure and integrity in intimacy.
Instagram: @beateabsalon
Photo: Pauline Massimo
REBECCA FRANCES
studied languages at the University of Cambridge and now devotes herself to the question of how bodies speak. She has completed training in Sexological Bodywork at the ISB Berlin and works as a yoga teacher and massage and breathwork practitioner. She is also interested in philosophical and poetic approaches to the somatic. In her practical, creative, and experimental physical work, she uses her intellectual background and professional interests to further explore what exactly happens when bodies touch—and why we want it so much or not at all.
Instagram: @feel_more_bln
SCHEDULE
Sat, February 7, 2026 – 12 noon to 8 p.m.
Sun, February 8, 2026 – 12 noon to 6 p.m.
LANGUAGES
English, German
HOSTS
>>Beate Absalon & >>Rebecca Frances
Choose your ticket price according to your self-assessment.
With the low(er) income tickets, we also want to give low-income earners the opportunity to attend our events.
We cordially invite high earners to make it with a higher contribution possible for us to make this offer.
We would like to thank you in advance for your solidarity.
For people with particularly low incomes, there are usually additional options for even lower prices.
Please do not hesitate to write to us and ask. We would be delighted if you could join us!
PRICE PER PERSON
EUR 250,00
Low(er) Income Tickets
I – EUR 200.00
II – EUR 150.00
III – EUR 100.00
High(er) Income Tickets
e I – EUR 300.00
e II – EUR 350.00
e III – EUR 400.00
Please also read all further info below, too.
Further informations
NOTES ON THE EVENT
The aims of our events are to learn together as a group and support shared processes as well as personal development. Couples and all other types of partnerships or constellations are welcome, but you should be aware and open to the fact that the courses are not designed as partnership experiences and that we address each person as an individual. For example, in order to include all participants equally, we usually work with random partner combinations in the exercises. This means that there will be both the same and different gender combinations. Participants should generally be open to working with any person and any body. Exceptions can be discussed on a case-by-case basis.
Gender identity, sexual orientation, age or membership of marginalized groups such as BBIPoC, migrants, refugees, LGBTQIA*, people with disabilities etc. are not criteria when registering and selecting participants.
We expect you to be careful, communicative, consent-oriented and mindful, and we encourage you to respect your own boundaries and self-responsibility.
Hate speech will not be tolerated. Please bring "candy speech".
We reserve the right to ask participants to leave the workshop should their behavior be hurtful or too problematic, and we reserve the right to do so without explanation - although we will likely try to explain. Workshop fees would then be refunded in full. Further claims are then excluded.
We do our best to accommodate different needs, but our resources are limited. If in doubt, please contact us.
You can read more about this topic here.
CANCELLATION POLICY
Cancellations are free of charge up to eight weeks before the start of the course. Up to four weeks before the start of the course, a cancellation fee of 20% of the course fee is payable. Up to two weeks before the start of the course, a cancellation fee of 50% is payable. Later cancellations and refunds of participant fees are not possible. However, participants can find replacement participants to take the places they have booked. There are no special regulations for non-participation due to illness. We refer you to ticket insurance options—google "ticket insurance," "Ergo," "Hanse-Merkur," or similar terms. In general, we strive to find accommodating solutions in such cases. If necessary, please contact us with a personal message. In the event of cancellation by the organizer, the course fee will be refunded in full. Further claims are excluded.