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IMPORTANT! BRING YOUR OWN TOWEL/SHEET AND ANYTHING ELSE YOU'D LIKE TO PLAY WITH!
“Fucking” = whatever YOU and YOU mean by it—it can be, but doesn’t have to be, penetrative or anything like that. Sensual, energetic, pornographic, kinky, playful, cuddly, spiritual, simple, laid-back… it all depends on what you’d like to do together by mutual consent. And that includes doing absolutely nothing together :)
"Speed" = as in speed dating. We rotate so that new pairs are formed over and over again. Each pair has 10 minutes.
We’ll skip the question “Is there something going on between us?” and jump right to “WHAT is going on between us?” We ask ourselves this in random encounters—sometimes with people who match our preferences, and sometimes with people who aren’t our type at all. The results can be surprising, often contradicting our assumptions, so there’s a lot of exciting things to discover and learn.
In every scenario, communication is the top priority—before any physical contact takes place, you first check in with each other by mutual agreement, discuss any impulses that arise, and only engage in the interaction after both of you have said “yes.” This interaction can be paused, modified, or ended at any time. What you do is up to you.
The workshop begins with warm-up exercises, which include practices that regulate the nervous system—such as ERAP (Embodied Relational Awareness Practice)—to help us engage with one another safely while maintaining a connection with ourselves. There will then be exercises without physical contact to get our imaginations going: what can we picture with this person? We’ll also set aside time to get in the right mood through movement, touch, and imagination.
A total of about 5 rounds will be held. Afterward, there will be an opportunity to revisit each encounter and discuss the experience.
THE FACILITATOR
BEATA
Beate Absalon is a cultural theorist with a background in various somatic disciplines. In her work, she explores the ambivalence of modern sexual cultures. She has held research fellowships at various institutions for cultural studies and is pursuing a Ph.D. on practices of negotiating consensual sex. In 2024, she published her non-fiction book
>> Not Giving a Fuck: On Unenthusiastic Sex & Sexless Pleasure—Overcoming Social Pressure and Finding Vibrant Intimacy (Kremayr & Scheriau). In it, she argues that the pressure to have “great” sex can be confidently shaken off, while a curious and benevolent attitude toward lack of desire, shame, boredom, “dry spells,” feminist celibacy, or asexuality can open up exciting new forms of intimacy. She is currently training to become a couples and sex therapist. As a psychosocial counselor and workshop leader, she believes in the power of eroticism—which often reveals itself most clearly in moments of “failure.” Her practice promotes self-determination and invites people to engage with themselves with greater sincerity as well as more playfulness.
Instagram: @beateabsalon
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With our Low(er) Income Tickets, we want to give low-income individuals the opportunity to attend our events.
We cordially invite high earners to make it with a higher contribution possible for us to make this offer.
With that in mind, we thank you in advance for your solidarity.
For people with particularly low incomes, there are usually additional options available for even lower prices.
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PRICE PER PERSON
50.00 EUR
Low(er) Income Tickets
I – EUR 40.00
II – EUR 30.00
III – EUR 20.00
High(er) Income Tickets
I – EUR 60.00
II – EUR 70.00
III – EUR 80.00
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NOTES ON THE EVENT
The goals of our events are collaborative learning within the group, supporting shared processes, and personal development. Couples and all other types of partnerships or relationships are welcome, but you should be aware and open to the fact that the courses are not designed as partnership experiences and that we address each person as an individual. For example: To ensure that all participants are equally involved, we usually work with randomly assigned partner combinations during the exercises. This means there will be both same-gender and mixed-gender pairings. Participants should generally be open to working with any person and any body. Exceptions can be discussed on a case-by-case basis.
Gender identity, sexual orientation, age, or membership in marginalized groups such as BBIPoC, migrants, refugees, LGBTQIA*, people with disabilities, etc., are not criteria for registration or participant selection.
We expect you to act with care, be communicative, prioritize consent, and be mindful, and we encourage you to respect your own boundaries and take personal responsibility.
Hate speech will not be tolerated. Please bring “Candy Speech” with you.
We reserve the right to ask participants to leave the workshop if their behavior is harmful or problematic, and we reserve the right to do so without explanation—although we will likely try to explain our decision. Workshop fees would then be refunded in full. Any further claims are excluded.
We do our best to accommodate different needs, but our resources are limited. Please contact us if you have any questions.
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CANCELLATION POLICY
Cancellations are free of charge up to eight weeks before the course begins; up to four weeks before the course begins, a cancellation fee of 20% of the course fee applies; and up to two weeks before the course begins, a cancellation fee of 50% applies. Later cancellations and refunds of participant fees are not possible. However, participants may find replacement participants to take their reserved spots. There are no special provisions for non-attendance due to illness. We recommend looking into ticket insurance options—just Google “ticket insurance,” “Ergo,” “Hanse-Merkur,” or similar terms. In general, we strive to find reasonable solutions in such cases. Please contact us via private message if necessary. If the organizer cancels the course, the full course fee will be refunded. No further claims are permitted.