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Calling A Sex-Positive Community, Group or Event a "Family" - And Why It Is A Red Flag - New Zine by Beata
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Calling A Sex-Positive Community, Group or Event a "Family" - And Why It Is A Red Flag - New Zine by Beata

In the many years we have been visiting or a part of different sex-positive scenes there has been a common word that made our whole bodies cringe and feel alarmed. It's family. Fa-mi-ly. It's supposed to sound nice, no? It gives a comforting sense of community. It's just a harmless way to sprinkle good vibes. To generate camaraderie. To let you know: You are welcome! You are a part of us! Gooblegubble One of us!...

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Cookie Consent
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Cookie Consent

Guys! We are all working diligently on a culture of consent by reminding each other in workshops and beyond that we don't take physical affection for granted; that we don't just assume anything about what the other person wants; that we respect personal boundaries and support each other in finding out, in a self-determined and collaborative process, what we want to do naughty things together; that we can move into surrender above all when we create safe spaces of trust; that a "no" is not a drama but a valuable hint for navigating the love zone and so on. This is all a huge project, a humanistic education project if you will, because there is much more at stake here than simply securing yourself in a legal contract-like manner when you become intimate together in order to arm yourself against accusations of assault. This is much more about deconstructing paternalistic structures, about new self and world relations! It's about learning to respect each other, to respect others and...

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