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Sex /vs./&/?/ Violence. An Attempt at Conceptual Delimitation Through Distinction
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Sex /vs./&/?/ Violence. An Attempt at Conceptual Delimitation Through Distinction

“What is sex?” we asked during a discussion session at Xplore. Anna Natt and Matís invited us to break down this impossible question into more specific parts: “How do you use the word ‘sex’?”, “How do you have sex?”, and “How do you know you’ve had sex?” One participant explained that he was attending this discussion group because he thought it was a good idea to hear, at a sex-positive event, what “sex” actually means to the participants here. Community = shared language. Makes sense. But after the first round, it becomes clear that “sex” means something different to everyone. And yet it would be too easy to stop at private language and pseudo-enlightened platitudes like “Everyone sees it differently, everyone is right, no one is right. Namaste.” Surely we can find good arguments for common ground to agree on convincing definitions. The answers to the questions vary between references to specific…

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Inspiring Restraint – Not Just in Japanese. Cultural-Historical Connections to Bondage
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Inspiring Restraint – Not Just in Japanese. Cultural-Historical Connections to Bondage

“[…] it matters what stories we tell in order to tell other stories; it matters what knots tie knots, what thoughts think thoughts, what ties tie ties.”
– Donna Haraway

Anyone who has gotten a taste for bondage and wants to learn more about the techniques, schools, and origins of restraint practices—beyond improvised tying with a bathrobe belt—will sooner or later come across the Japanese arts of restraint known as shibari or kinbaku. The discussion then immediately turns to the Hojojutsu practices of the samurai, which date back to the Japanese Middle Ages and involved using rope restraints to subdue opponents. One learns that Shibari/Kinbaku developed almost organically out of Japanese everyday culture, which is entirely geared toward binding—after all, kimonos and gifts are also tied with a furoshiki. In his highly acclaimed book *The Beauty of Kinbaku*, Master “K” never tires of emphasizing how closely Shibari/Kinbaku is tied to Japanese…

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