Sex /vs./&/?/ Violence. Attempt at a conceptual delimitation on the basis of demarcation

"What is sex?" we asked in a discussion round during Xplore. Anna Natt and Matís invited us to break down this impossible question: "How do you use the word sex?", "How do you do sex?" and "How do you know you had sex?" One participant explained that he was attending this discussion group because he thought it would be a good idea to hear what "sex" means to the participants at a sex-positive event. Community = shared language. Makes sense. But after the first round, it becomes clear that "sex" means something different to everyone. And yet it would be too easy to stop at private language and pseudo-enlightened "Everyone sees it differently, everyone is right, no one is right. Namaste." Surely we can find good arguments for common denominators in order to agree on convincing conceptual limitations. The answers to the questions vary between references to certain...