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Lonely surfaces - sexual enhancement on the touchscreen
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Lonely surfaces - sexual enhancement on the touchscreen

"It's the usual problem of boundaries. When was the first time you satisfied yourself? The first successful autoerotic stimulation that put an end to frustrated fingering? The attempt at meaningful finger play?" asks the protagonist of the film "Jung & Wild" in her blog of the same name, in which she philosophizes about her erotic endeavours. Yes, how do we actually learn to give ourselves and others pleasure? Do we follow intuitions, do we find out by trial and error, or do we look for tips and tricks to guide us? With the advent of so-called sex technologies, there are new ways to increase our arousal skills.

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Sexmoralism - Compulsory Sex - Sexpositivity - Sexnegativity
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Sexmoralism - Compulsory Sex - Sexpositivity - Sexnegativity

I would like to take up the cudgels for sex negativity. Why?
1) Despite all the fantastic things that are made possible under the label "sex-positive", there are also some weak points, stumbling blocks, traps and misunderstandings. These go hand in hand with an uncritical understanding of sex positivity when a too one-sided diagnosis of the problem is made: that sex is primarily repressed and taboo.
2) I would like to propose a very specific understanding of sex negativity that cannot be confused with a kind of ecclesiastical-conservative or political-right sexophobia.
3) In general, I want to abandon binary divisions and make it clear that sex-negativity and sex-positivity do not have to be two opponents, but rather as two progressive strategies that both could pull together from opposite directions in order to achieve a huge victory together.

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Beyond 'sex-positive' and 'sex-negative'
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Beyond 'sex-positive' and 'sex-negative'

How do you feel about "sex positivity"? Just the word now!
When I heard the term for the first time, I couldn't get it together that such a sensual and dazzling space was labeled with such a cool and mathematical expression, the sound of which reminded me of the formulation of unpleasant medical diagnoses. Or I had to think of the pejorative accusations of positivism that I know from scientific contexts, when the blind spots are pointed out that go hand in hand with limiting the development of a topic to the one-dimensional accumulation and accumulation of facts, when there is also a surplus of knowledge that is non-positivizable, that cannot be clearly answered with "yes" or "no". In these initial associations with 'positivity', the term is not initially judgmental, but merely denotes a factual "something is there" "something is above zero". Of course, 'sex positivity' doesn't just want to emphasize that there is simply sex...

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