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How can you actually play in so-called sex-positive spaces and is it actually about sex or not actually about something else, but what do you call it?
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How can you actually play in so-called sex-positive spaces and is it actually about sex or not actually about something else, but what do you call it?

While walking with a friend, we talk about my perception and experience of the so-called sex-positive spaces - out of her open curiosity, as she has not yet experienced these spaces first-hand. I start by describing a bit of the 'infrastructure': how it all started for me in the first place, how I first stumbled into a workshop by chance at a dance school where ropes and floggers were also used, how I then met Schwelle7 and Matís, whom I told about writing my master's thesis on Shibari and who then recruited me as an assistant for a bondage course in no time at all. Finally, the more difficult part, trying to describe what interests me about the rooms in the first place. I mention the classics that many people in the "scene" report about. How liberating it is to let people...

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Sexmoralism - Compulsory Sex - Sexpositivity - Sexnegativity
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Sexmoralism - Compulsory Sex - Sexpositivity - Sexnegativity

I would like to take up the cudgels for sex negativity. Why?
1) Despite all the fantastic things that are made possible under the label "sex-positive", there are also some weak points, stumbling blocks, traps and misunderstandings. These go hand in hand with an uncritical understanding of sex positivity when a too one-sided diagnosis of the problem is made: that sex is primarily repressed and taboo.
2) I would like to propose a very specific understanding of sex negativity that cannot be confused with a kind of ecclesiastical-conservative or political-right sexophobia.
3) In general, I want to abandon binary divisions and make it clear that sex-negativity and sex-positivity do not have to be two opponents, but rather as two progressive strategies that both could pull together from opposite directions in order to achieve a huge victory together.

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Beyond 'sex-positive' and 'sex-negative'
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Beyond 'sex-positive' and 'sex-negative'

How do you feel about "sex positivity"? Just the word now!
When I heard the term for the first time, I couldn't get it together that such a sensual and dazzling space was labeled with such a cool and mathematical expression, the sound of which reminded me of the formulation of unpleasant medical diagnoses. Or I had to think of the pejorative accusations of positivism that I know from scientific contexts, when the blind spots are pointed out that go hand in hand with limiting the development of a topic to the one-dimensional accumulation and accumulation of facts, when there is also a surplus of knowledge that is non-positivizable, that cannot be clearly answered with "yes" or "no". In these initial associations with 'positivity', the term is not initially judgmental, but merely denotes a factual "something is there" "something is above zero". Of course, 'sex positivity' doesn't just want to emphasize that there is simply sex...

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