Eclectic attempt at un/security (work in process)

risk, safety, conflict, consent - what drives sex-positive scenes usually has something to do with these key terms. It's complicated. Insecurity is not bad per se and safety is not good per se and vice versa. In my personal experience, I have found spaces that strongly emphasize consensus to be both empowering and enriching, as well as constricting, school-like or tamed and therefore simply boring or not doing justice to issues that are fundamentally ambivalent grey areas. Sometimes these spaces led to frustration when the very people to whom I could give myself completely because of their trusting nature always backed down when things got interesting so as not to push 'my' boundaries...