Somatic Disembodiment – Or: How do I figure out what I want (and that it’s actually what I don’t want)? Or: My favorite workshops are the ones that turn workshops upside down
“We’ll begin with a brief meditation in which we reflect on states of mind that are not focused on pleasure and satisfaction. Our aim is to reflect on the nature of desire and ask whether our desire has far more to do with self-denial than with self-fulfillment.”
There it is! The note I was looking for…
I'm sorry about the sex
Pamela Russmann: The myGiulia theme for August is “What a feeling.” What feeling do you associate with sex? Beate Absalon:
In English, I would say “anticipation,” which in German is unfortunately usually translated as “Vorfreude.” But in the English sense of this spellbound state of expectation, both can exist at the same time: joy and fear. And what I like about the word “anticipation” is that it refers to a state that hasn’t happened yet. I associate that with sex, too—this eternal circling around something that somehow can’t quite be grasped.
INDEX
- April 2025
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February 2025
- Feb. 10, 2025 On the "tradition" of Tantra Massage (OR Eva says it best) Feb. 10, 2025
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October 2024
- Oct. 24, 2024 My First Time Oct. 24, 2024
- Oct. 21, 2024 I'm sorry about the sex Oct. 21, 2024
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August 2023
- Aug. 22, 2023 Devouring, Digestion, and Kokoreç Aug. 22, 2023
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July 2023
- July 3, 2023 "I do wonder: Why am I putting people through this?" July 3, 2023
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April 2023
- April 22, 2023 Workshop on Sexuality. Part I April 22, 2023
- April 21, 2023 Workshop on Sexuality. Part II April 21, 2023
- April 20, 2023 Workshop on Sexuality. Part III April 20, 2023
- April 19, 2023 Workshop on Sexuality. Part IV April 19, 2023
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August 2022
- Aug. 23, 2022 Tantric Massage: Decluttering, Recluttering & Beyond – A TWAPOS experience Aug. 23, 2022
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July 2022
- July 30, 2022 Salt With a Pinch of Tantra July 30, 2022
- July 21, 2022 On Being Unenthusiastic About Enthusiastic Consent – New Zine by Beate Absalon July 21, 2022
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January 2022
- Jan. 11, 2022 Calling a Sex-Positive Community, Group, or Event a “Family”—And Why It Is a Red Flag—New Zine by Beata Jan. 11, 2022
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Dezember 2021
- Dec. 1, 2021 But I'm a Creep. A Lab Report. Dec. 1, 2021
- October 2021
- September 2021
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April 2021
- April 10, 2021 Cookie Consent April 10, 2021
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January 2021
- Jan. 2, 2021 Self-help zine for the time AFTER an exciting workshop Jan. 2, 2021
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December 2020
- Dec. 31, 2020 Intimate Interviews Part II Dec. 31, 2020
- Dec. 22, 2020 Goethe-Institut China video interview with Beata on “Pornography & Society” Dec. 22, 2020
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November 2020
- Nov. 11, 2020 The Inner Playground. An audio journey by Tim Holland Nov. 11, 2020
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October 2020
- Oct. 29, 2020 Daniela Reina Téllez on the Power of Workshops and Circles Oct. 29, 2020
- Oct. 20, 2020 Sex /vs./&/?/ Violence. An Attempt at Conceptual Delimitation through Demarcation Oct. 20, 2020
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September 2020
- Sept. 18, 2020 Testimonial for our workshop “Trial & Eros” by Claire Sept. 18, 2020
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August 2020
- Aug. 6, 2020 “Sex & Food” – Beata in a podcast conversation with Nicole Siller Aug. 6, 2020
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June 2020
- June 23, 2020 Intimate Interviews Part I – The Connection Between Art and Desire and a Workshop Request Show June 23, 2020
- June 15, 2020 Lonely Surfaces – Sexual Enhancement on the Touchscreen June 15, 2020
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May 2020
- May 3, 2020 Sexual Moralism – Compulsory Sex – Sex Positivity – Sex Negativity May 3, 2020
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March 2020
- March 18, 2020 Inspiring Restraint – Not Just in Japanese. Cultural-Historical Connections to Bondage March 18, 2020
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February 2020
- Feb. 24, 2020 Clauses: A Self-Reflection Feb. 24, 2020
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January 2020
- Jan. 15, 2020 Beyond ‘sex-positive’ and ‘sex-negative’ Jan. 15, 2020
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November 2019
- Nov. 27, 2019 Deguiltification – An Experiential Essay by Chris Ifso Nov. 27, 2019
- Nov. 10, 2019 Forensic Sexualities. Some Thoughts on Shame Nov. 10, 2019
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September 2019
- Sept. 25, 2019 “Look What Marketing’s Done to My Body” – On the Pressure of (Not-So) Creative Self-Promotion Sept. 25, 2019
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July 2019
- July 9, 2019 An Eclectic Essay on (In)security (work in progress) July 9, 2019
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June 2019
- June 24, 2019 On Wellness and Exorcism: An Essay on What Makes a Session Valuable June 24, 2019
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April 2019
- April 28, 2019 The Ropes That Mean The World. Reflections on the EURIX – Rope Artist Intl. Performances Spring 2019 April 28, 2019
- April 6, 2019 “Always this gross sex.” On reading the reviews of Jan Bonny’s ‘Wintermärchen’ April 6, 2019
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March 2019
- March 27, 2019 A mixed bag, please! Definitional difficulties March 27, 2019
- March 20, 2019 Enduring the Unconventional: Reflections After a Workshop March 20, 2019
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July 2018
- July 10, 2018 Some Thoughts on the Empowering Sensual Objectifications in Contact Improvisation July 10, 2018
TAG CLOUD
- An Orgy
- Anna Mense
- Type
- Audio
- BDSM
- Beata
- Beata
- Beate Absalon
- Bondage
- Brainstorming
- CI
- cluttering
- Consent
- Creepiness
- Critical Sexpositivity
- criticism
- Cultural Theory
- decluttering
- Definition
- Decriminalization
- Empowerment
- Enhancement
- Enthusiastic Consent
- Expectations
- Felix Ruckert
- Female Pleasure
- Feminism
- Shackles
- Arts & Culture
- Fluent
- FOMO
- freedom
- FRIES
- Goethe-Institut China
- I gotta fuck
- Borders
- Growing Old
- History
- Timber Market
- humor
- Independence
- Interview
- Intimacy
- Kinbaku
- consensus
- Criticism
- Cultural History
- Art
- Body
- Nouns of the body
- Lumen d'Arc
- Luhmen d'Arc Studio
- luhmendarc
- Desire
- Martha Nussbaum
- matis
- Matís d'Arc
- MyGiulia
- new age
- Not giving a damn
- Orgy
- Podcast
- Positivity Pressure
- Prude-shaming
- Queer Contact Improvisation
- Rape Play
- Rebecca
- Reflection
- Rules
- retreat
- Review
- Risk-Aware Space
- Rules
- Safe(r) Space
- Shame
- Self-help
- Session
- Sex
- Sex Technologies
- Anti-sex
- Sex-positive
- Sexuality
- Sexuality
- Shame
- Shibari
- Safety
- Solidarity
- Spain
- tantra
- tantric massage
- tantra with a pinch of salt
- Testimonial
- Touch & Play
- lack of enthusiasm
- Uncertainty
- Devour
- When
- Workshop
- Workshop on Sexuality
- zine

