Somatic Disembodiment - Or: How do I find out what I want (and that this is what I don't want)? Or: My favorite workshops are workshops that turn workshops upside down
"We start with a short meditation in which we reflect on states that are not geared towards pleasure and satisfaction. We want to reflect on the nature of desire and ask whether our desire has much more to do with self-denial than with self-fulfillment."
This is it! My note that I was looking for ...
I feel sorry for the sex
Pamela Russmann: The myGiulia theme for August is "What a feeling". What feeling do you associate with sex? Beate Absalon:
In English I would say "anticipation", which unfortunately is usually translated as "Vorfreude" in German. However, in the English meaning of this spellbound anticipation, both can be there at the same time: Joy and fear. And what I like about the word anticipation is that it refers to a state that has not yet occurred. I also associate this with sex, this eternal circling of something that somehow cannot be definitively grasped.
"I do ask myself: why am I turning people in?"
Jade carefully picks up a pink silicone cake mold, which is modeled on a cerebral hemisphere. Jade carefully scrapes out a thin white layer and collects it in a small bottle. Then we turn on the microphone and ask what Jade is doing and why :) With this audio series, we'd like to introduce you to people who can take a leaf out of our book when it comes to the question: What do you actually do in a Playspace? Because they come with many challenges. How do I get in touch with people? What should I pack for this? Should I plan something or spontaneously see what works? We were lucky enough with Jade...
Workshopsexuality. Part I
Partnered sexuality works differently to casual hook-up sexuality. It's a distinction that can help you tackle relationship problems and save yourself frustration if you think that things should be just as fiery in bed with your spouse after a visit to Ikea as they are with a mysterious guy you drag out of a jazz bar. Similarly, adolescent sexuality works differently to adult sexuality. A distinction that helps you to adapt your sex education knowledge to the new phase of life and save yourself stress if you think that body parts should erect and lubricate just as easily as they do when you're...
Workshopsexuality. Part II
We continue with an attempt to find out how workshop sexuality differs from other sexualities. In Part I, we stopped at the observation that workshops are didactically organized, follow a plan and prescribe certain rules and manners. This is why the assertion that workshops break social norms is only partially true. As is so often the case, breaking norms does not simply go hand in hand with freedom from norms, but with a new norm. Normal in the sense of "common" in our society is, for example, that sex is largely non-verbal. And this doesn't mean a lack of dirty talk, but an honest and respectful exchange about what you like and what you don't like. In sex-positive workshops, on the other hand...
Workshopsexuality. Part III
At the Institute for Cultural Inquiry in Berlin in 2021, there was a conference called "The Workshop - Investigations Into an Artistic-Political Format", the contents of which are wonderfully illuminating for the inherent logic of sex-positive workshops and their influence on a certain understanding of sexuality. Presentations were dedicated to all the beautiful promises of workshop culture: solution-oriented cooperation, solidarity and supportive sharing of resources and knowledge, crazy possibilities of consciousness-expanding experiences through meditation exercises, psychological self-observation techniques, improvisation or organ experiments... According to the conference description, workshops are considered to be "optimally connectable and almost universally applicable...
Workshopsexuality. Part IV
In the last blog post, reference was made to the cultural studies conference "The Workshop - Investigations Into an Artistic-Political Format" at ici Berlin, where workshops were also examined for their decidedly artistic-performative aspects. Sex-positive workshops are also a kind of performance or social sculpture that follow choreographies. Many theater terms fit in here: a certain togetherness is rehearsed, skills are practiced, rituals are performed. This forms workshop sexuality as an ars erotica. It doesn't have to be...
Salt With A Pinch Of Tantra
"It's like opening a Pandora's box" - is how one participant described her experience at our retreat TANTRA WITH A PINCH OF SALT. The things that come to the surface once one refuses to take things for granted. Like when I participated in my first Tantra workshops I just took for granted what the teachers told me... For example that we are dealing with authentic tantric practices by doing massages. And then at our retreat on the first evening we learn in Eva Hanson's lecture that those massages actually never were a part of tantric philosophy and spiritual...
On Being Unenthusiastic About Enthusiastic Consent - New Zine by Beate Absalon
Consent is a bit like magic - it turns what was previously forbidden into something allowed of even desired! But how can we know that the consent given is valid - real! - consent?
Progressive sexpositive education at times outlines the parameters of good valid consent by using the acronym...
Calling A Sex-Positive Community, Group or Event a "Family" - And Why It Is A Red Flag - New Zine by Beata
In the many years we have been visiting or a part of different sex-positive scenes there has been a common word that made our whole bodies cringe and feel alarmed. It's family. Fa-mi-ly. It's supposed to sound nice, no? It gives a comforting sense of community. It's just a harmless way to sprinkle good vibes. To generate camaraderie. To let you know: You are welcome! You are a part of us! Gooblegubble One of us!...
How can you actually play in so-called sex-positive spaces and is it actually about sex or not actually about something else, but what do you call it?
While walking with a friend, we talk about my perception and experience of the so-called sex-positive spaces - out of her open curiosity, as she has not yet experienced these spaces first-hand. I start by describing a bit of the 'infrastructure': how it all started for me in the first place, how I first stumbled into a workshop by chance at a dance school where ropes and floggers were also used, how I then met Schwelle7 and Matís, whom I told about writing my master's thesis on Shibari and who then recruited me as an assistant for a bondage course in no time at all. Finally, the more difficult part, trying to describe what interests me about the rooms in the first place. I mention the classics that many people in the "scene" report about. How liberating it is to let people...
Selfhelp zine for the time AFTER an exciting workshop
Completely irrelevant in times like these, but the vacations were such a great time for crafting and reflecting that we don't want to keep the results from you. HAPPY NEW YEAR!
Intimate Interviews Part II
Last year, we had the pleasure of conducting interviews with lovely and talented people about everything that concerns us in our work. To do this, we first pampered our interviewees with a bodywork session of their choice so that we could get into conversation with each other in a well-blooded way. We had prepared many questions and they came up again and again, while others arose spontaneously. So the conversations usually started with a free association on the topic of "sex" - just say the first thing that comes to mind without thinking. And towards the end, it was usually about which workshops on creative intimacy they would specifically like to see. What emerged between us and was put into words are pieces of gold for me! Here is the second transcribed interview!
Video interview by the Goethe-Institut China with Beata on "Pornography & Society"
What materials can be used to trace the elusive nature of sexuality? How are our bodies and their desires entangled in power relations - how to deal with them? Alone or with others? Publicly or privately? By emphasizing the beautiful or the difficult sides? With play or seriousness? Being sweet or being angry? Do you even have to decide - and why is it always so much about deciding "This is good and this is bad!" when it comes to sexual matters? Silvan Hagenbrock, online editor of the Goethe-Institut China, spoke to Beata about her work and vision for the issue of the online magazine "yì" focusing on "Pornography and Society".
Watch the video here.
INDEX
- April 2025
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February 2025
- Feb. 10, 2025 On the "tradition" of Tantra Massage (OR Eva says it best) Feb. 10, 2025
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October 2024
- Oct. 24, 2024 My First Time Oct. 24, 2024
- Oct. 21, 2024 I'm sorry about the sex Oct. 21, 2024
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August 2023
- Aug. 22, 2023 Devouring, digestion, and kokoreç Aug. 22, 2023
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July 2023
- July 3, 2023 "I ask myself: Why do I deceive people?" July 3, 2023
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April 2023
- Apr. 22, 2023 Workshop on sexuality. Part I Apr. 22, 2023
- Apr. 21, 2023 Workshop on sexuality. Part II Apr. 21, 2023
- Apr. 20, 2023 Workshop on sexuality. Part III Apr. 20, 2023
- Apr. 19, 2023 Workshop on sexuality. Part IV Apr. 19, 2023
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August 2022
- Aug. 23, 2022 Tantric massage: Decluttering, Recluttering & Beyond – A TWAPOS experience Aug. 23, 2022
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July 2022
- July 30, 2022 Salt With A Pinch Of Tantra July 30, 2022
- July 21, 2022 On Being Unenthusiastic About Enthusiastic Consent – New Zine by Beate Absalon July 21, 2022
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January 2022
- Jan. 11, 2022 Calling A Sex-Positive Community, Group or Event a “Family” – And Why It Is A Red Flag – New Zine by Beata Jan. 11, 2022
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December 2021
- Dec. 1, 2021 But I'm a Creep. A Lab Report. Dec. 1, 2021
- October 2021
- September 2021
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April 2021
- Apr. 10, 2021 Cookie consent Apr. 10, 2021
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January 2021
- Jan. 2, 2021 Self-help zine for the time AFTER an exciting workshop Jan. 2, 2021
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December 2020
- Dec. 31, 2020 Intimate Interviews Part II Dec. 31, 2020
- Dec. 22, 2020 Video interview with Beata by the Goethe-Institut China on "Pornography & Society" Dec. 22, 2020
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November 2020
- Nov. 11, 2020 The Inner Playground. An audio journey by Tim Holland Nov. 11, 2020
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October 2020
- Oct. 29, 2020 Daniela Reina Téllez On The Power Of Workshops And Circles Oct. 29, 2020
- Oct. 20, 2020 Sex /vs./&/?/ Violence. An attempt at conceptual delimitation based on differentiation Oct. 20, 2020
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September 2020
- Sept. 18, 2020 Testimonial for our workshop "Trial & Eros" by Claire Sept. 18, 2020
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August 2020
- Aug. 6, 2020 "Sex & Food" – Beata in a podcast talk with Nicole Siller Aug. 6, 2020
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June 2020
- June 23, 2020 Intimate Interviews Part I – The connection between art and desire and a workshop request concert June 23, 2020
- June 15, 2020 Lonely surfaces – sexual enhancement on the touchscreen June 15, 2020
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May 2020
- May 3, 2020 Sex moralism – Compulsory sex – Sex positivity – Sex negativity May 3, 2020
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March 2020
- March 18, 2020 Inspiring restraint – not only in Japanese. Cultural and historical connections to bondage March 18, 2020
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February 2020
- Feb. 24, 2020 Clauses. A self-reflection February 24, 2020
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January 2020
- Jan. 15, 2020 Beyond 'sex-positive' and 'sex-negative' Jan. 15, 2020
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November 2019
- Nov. 27, 2019 Deguiltification – Experiential Essay By Chris Ifso Nov. 27, 2019
- Nov. 10, 2019 Forensic Sexualities. Some Thoughts on Shame Nov. 10, 2019
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September 2019
- Sept. 25, 2019 "Look what marketing's done to my body" – The pressure of (not so) creative self-marketing Sept. 25, 2019
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July 2019
- July 9, 2019 Eclectic essay on uncertainty/security (work in progress) July 9, 2019
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June 2019
- June 24, 2019 On wellness and exorcism. An essay on what makes a session valuable June 24, 2019
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April 2019
- Apr. 28, 2019 The Ropes That Mean The World. Reflections on the EURIX – Rope Artist Intl. Performances Spring 2019 Apr. 28, 2019
- Apr. 6, 2019 "Always this disgusting sex." Reading the reviews of Jan Bonny's "Wintermärchen" (Winter Fairy Tale) Apr. 6, 2019
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March 2019
- March 27, 2019 A mixed bag, please! Difficulties in defining March 27, 2019
- March 20, 2019 Enduring the weird. Reflections after a workshop March 20, 2019
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July 2018
- July 10, 2018 Some Thoughts on the Empowering Sensual Objectifications in Contact Improvisation July 10, 2018
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